Aging

May. 25th, 2018 02:49 pm
krm: (Mercy battle-ready)
So here goes.  Another summer has reached us, another year has passed me by.  I am twenty-five years old.  I will be married in less than five months.  

I remember seeing a meme or reddit/tumblr post explicating how the rate our cells die off and regenerate slows down once we turn 25.  That 25 is the magic number in which we start dying.  I never thought myself invincible; when I was younger I clearly recall seeing my mother in chronic pain and being thankful that simple tasks such as walking didn't tire me out.  I think I perhaps took that for granted because I'm starting to feel the pain of adulthood now.  25 is the age when I developed SVT, and although I have had surgery to correct it, the heart issue is not the only one I'm facing.  Infections, poorly balanced hormones.  I get occasional lower back pain on a frequent basis.  Cramps in my leg and knee.  I feel as though my body has begun deteriorating.  And it scares the shit out of me, to be honest.  I know my weight is part of the problem; I've had several wake up calls concerning it.  I can't describe how difficult it is to maintain the motivation for a health lifestyle.  But summer is a new time.  More time to do things.  Hopefully I can accomplish such things.

In other news, my relationship with my alleged father has degenerated further into monosyllabic text messages.  It frustrates me to no end seeing how little I actually matter to a parent who meant the world to me as a child.  But I've slowly learned the difficult lesson to not place too much dependency on an absent family member's presence.  I mourn over the relationship, that bond once shared, but dwelling on it will change nothing, except perhaps trigger a depressive episode.  I've had to do the same thing to my twin sister, but I must soldier on.

Why. Is. ESO. Taking. So. Long. To. Update.  Granted, I have not played for several months but I wanted to stretch my MMORPG muscles again.  But last night, the download kept getting hung, despite attempting it 3 different times.

I'm rewatching Yugioh, the original series.  I'm going to try to use Twitter more.  I've considered linking my dreamwidth as my main blog since I'm more inclined to updating it.  Overwatch Anniversary Event!  Renaissance Faire tomorrow! Wedding planning this summer and watching my empty email hoping for responses.

Movies I've watched:
-A Quiet Place
-Avengers Infinity War (OMGGGGGG WHATTT FTW)
-Deadpool 2

Movies to watch:
-Han Solo -- I'm actually pretty ambivalent about this one.  Mostly because I apparently have the personality of an old person now and abhor change (Harrison Ford is Han Solo and NO ONE ELSE), and also because I wish they would focus on new Star War stories and character.  But I will still watch it!

I want to make a graphic novel.  I wish I could draw.

What gives?

Nov. 24th, 2017 03:17 pm
krm: (Birdbrain)
I'm putting this on my informal, personal blog because this includes details concerning my personal life.  No one has technically asked me this question, though I sense it lingers in the peripheral of some thoughts.  But here is my answer to:

It's been nearly two years since your last book.  What gives?  When will the next one be ready?

Aye, it has been nearly two nears since the release of Prince of the Vale (December 11, 2015).  To preface this rather complicated answer, let me update the status on the projects that are works in progress.  There's two of them:  The Midwinter Fairytale and Queen of the Pyre.  Midwinter is a standalone lyrical novel.  It's nearly completed, pending the remaining last chapters and my editor's progress.  Queen is perhaps the more anticipated of these works (both by my editor and several fans).  My editor has not seen the draft for Queen yet and will not for at least a while.  The draft is about 30% completed.  I have the outline hammered out, it just takes more focus to put it to paper/word document. I want to finish Midwinter first.

So now, for the why part.

Since the initial beginnings for both Midwinter and Queen, I have undergone SEVERAL changes in my personal life.  Namely, I have transitioned from a rather unhealthy romantic relationship to one that is perfectly wholesome and happy.  In light of the recent Hollywood sexual assault allegations coming to light (i.e. the #MeToo movement), one would think that it would be easy for me to freely talk about my experiences.  However, it is not, especially with the certain events still rather fresh on my memory and that unique fear of outing the abuser.  So many conversations, defenses, justifications I do not yet want to share. Simply put, a lot of bad stuff happened in that relationship.  I won't go into details today. 

As far as my writing goes, my current published works were completed and published during a time when I was in that relationship (even so much as when that relationship ended for a brief time and was once again reinstated).  As can be expected from any unhealthy relationship, there was a lot of bad stuff. A lot of negative emotions.  I was in a bad headspace for a long time (8.5 years! Nearly a decade! Particularly during my formative years!).  I was typically angry, sad, upset, and depressed.  When I wrote, I wrote as a form of escapism, although I was not necessarily aware of this method at the time.  It is clear me to now (hindsight is 20/20, eh?).  I wrote to relieve the intense pressure of my emotions, an outlet if you will.  For the most part, it worked.  It produced two novels.

Now, sans unhealthy relationship, I am in a completely different headspace.  I still have my depression, but it flares up much more infrequently now.  I do not feel all those negative emotions as I once did, at least not to the same degree (I'm still human, I still get sad and angry).  It's not a constant state of mind for me.  And, trust me, that is a much welcome change.   

I have still written this past year.  Not as frequently as I'd like, but enough to show me that I still can.  My talent is not exclusive to my pain, be it emotional, mental, psychological, or even, dare I say, physical pain.  But my situation forces me to approach writing from a different angle than I had previously.  Much different things occupy my thoughts now and my responsibilities and priorities have shifted significantly to accommodate the normal expectations of a well-functioning or adapting adult.  I no longer have massive amounts of pain I need to release or avoid.  So now, I need to engineer my methods from this new perspective.  I can do it; I've done it, bit by bit this year.  But, to say the least, it's certainly been an adjustment period.

Adjustment.  That's a nice word for this transition.

There are other things, of course, that require my focus and energy that hadn't previously.  My new job as a teacher.  Wedding preparations, and other adjustments to make with this new life I've established for myself.

Rest assured.  Things are much better now for the authoress.  And I'm working as diligently as I can.  Stay tuned.  <3
so, on a more cheerful note compared to the last time I updated.

I got a chromebook. I was hesitant. I've been wanting one for a while, but couldn't justify it. But I'm glad I got it. I love it. It's simple, and it makes writing easy for me.

As far as my education goes. Finals are this week. I've gotten a lot done recently and a lot of good test scores and grades back. But I've still got some ways to go. But, theoretically, after this week, all I've got left is my student teaching. Then, buh-bam. Done. Graduated December 2016.

The crossroads has been delayed, inevitably. I'm pining.

And also. In case you weren't aware. My 23 years of existence means nothing to my sperm-donor who would give it all up for another chance to bang his girlfriend fiance. [deleted rant] it's whatever. Maybe not just whatever, because I'm still pretty pissed off about the whole thing. But I can't say I'm surprised, considering all behavior as of late from him. Unsurprising.

I guess becoming an adult is learning who is there for you and who is not. Who matters versus who just uses you for their own benefit.

So there you have it. Kelly is becoming an adult. In other news, Ghostbusters. Fraggin awesome. Lurved it. Amazing. The critics are wrong, but they usually are.

Jaded

Jun. 27th, 2015 10:15 am
krm: (Damn Them)
 My seemingly "liberal" opinions are not an open invitation to receive didactic lectures, particularly from persons who come off as condescending and proceed to act like I have no knowledge of any subject.  I am not stupid.  I am not uneducated.  I do not care to listen to an unwarranted speech about how wrong you believe I am.

There's a time and place for everything.  If I posted something political to my Facebook page, then yes, that's in the public.  It's available for others to comment, share their opinions, whatever.  But I post on Facebook isn't an invitation to be blasted off the Internet with cruel, spiteful remarks.

And if someone mentions the topic of abortion in a personal setting, then by all means, a discussion on the subject is welcome.  If someone directly asks me for my opinion, then I will gladly share.  If someone is speaking of a topic, of which I have an opinion about, then it is normal to expect anyone to voice their thoughts in a civil manner.  

It's okay to disagree with me; you might find I understand or even agree with what you have to say.  But it's not okay to lecture me for over 30 minutes about how wrong you believe I am.  And to continuously talk over him any time I try to say anything and to keep railing at me, without allowing any sort of opportunity for a rebuttal.  That is not how you discuss.  Your opinion is not The Correct One, because to me (and especially the way you've approached this) just makes me feel like you're full of shit.

Additionally, if you hold the opinion of "Abortion is murder, NO MATTER WHAT," then that sort of logic doesn't allow any room for your next sentiment, "Abortion has it's place in some instances."  Because approaching the subject of abortion with this mindset is a manner that sets you apart as superior with some sort of warped perspective that gives you the ability to determine who deserves an abortion and who doesn't.  That's none of your business--who gets an abortion and for what reason.  You are not above these pregnant women to decide what is best for them, and, ultimately, who is deserving of treatment.
(From a few days ago...) Excuse me while I step on my soap box here.

"Where suspicion fills the air and holds scholars in line for fear of their jobs, there can be no exercise of the free intellect. . . . A problem can no longer be pursued with impunity to its edges. Fear stalks the classroom. The teacher is no longer a stimulant to adventurous thinking; (s)he becomes instead a pipe line for safe and sound information. A deadening dogma takes the place of free inquiry. Instruction tends to become sterile; pursuit of knowledge is discouraged; discussion often leaves off where it should begin."
Justice William O. Douglas,
United States Supreme Court:
Adler v. Board of Education, 1951.

Censorship was a discussion in my Young Adult Literature class today, but I believe this line of thinking can be similarly applied to a lot of current issues swirling through *current*, current events and especially science.

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